Many couples consider separation to be a temporary arrangement, and one that does not require a formal agreement. This could be a big mistake, however, even if this is a trial separation. Whatever direction you are leaning (e.g., divorce, permanent separation, reconciliation), you still have marital obligations to attend to.

If you and your spouse have very few marital assets or debts, no children, and a mutual understanding that living apart for a while is the best course of action, then you may be able to get by without a separation agreement. However, if you have children, a house you own jointly, joint bank accounts, etc., then things can get complicated very quickly.

Mediation allows couples to address and resolve the important issues pertaining to the separation. With separation mediation, a neutral, third-party mediator facilitates a discussion between the spouses toward reaching a mutually agreeable solution. When the mediation sessions are completed, the spouses have the assurance that they are on the same page, and that the agreement is in writing and approved by the court.

For couples who have already separated, it may be difficult to meet at a physical location for mediation. This is often an issue for military families or if one spouse travels a lot for business, has relocated to another area, or is just uncomfortable meeting the other spouse face-to-face. In this type of situation, virtual mediation may be a good option. With virtual separation mediation, sessions can be conducted remotely by phone, Skype, or a similar connection. As long as both spouses have access to a stable phone and/or high-speed internet connection, they can participate in virtual mediation.

There are times when couples need to take a break from each other to evaluate their marriage and make important decisions about the future.